- The key question to understand who you are: 'What did I need to do in childhood to win the support and approval of my parents?'
- Subsidiary inquiries: 'To please my father/mother, I needed to...'
- Understanding the 'commands' or expectations from our family.
- Recognizing how these expectations shape our attitudes and outlooks.
- Auditing these conditions of acceptance to understand their current impact on our lives.
- Reflecting on how much we are still influenced by the 'laws' of our family.
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